Description

The Red Flag Field Guide is a clear, visual, and critically-informed manual to help you recognize what’s off before it becomes damaging. Dating today involves more than swiping; it involves sorting through unclear intentions, mixed signals, and subtle forms of control that don’t always look like red flags right away.

This guide is designed for people who want actual advice for dealing with dating red flags like:

• Dismissive or invalidating communication
• Guilt tactics and subtle boundary-pushing
• “Caring” behavior that masks control
• Inconsistencies between words and actions
• Emotional withdrawal after intense affection
• Sudden mood shifts that keep you second-guessing

Who it’s for:

• People actively dating, especially through apps or in urban environments
• Anyone unsure if they’re “overthinking” something that doesn’t feel right
• Friends helping others talk through confusing relationships
• Those reflecting on past relationship patterns with clarity, not regret

Use it when:

• You leave a date with more questions than answers
• Someone says something that unsettles you, but you can’t explain why
• You’re stuck between a good first impression and persistent discomfort
• You want a quick way to sort red flags from green ones without guessing